This post is inspired by:
“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans”.
I’m home for a little bit, and at my favorite coffee shop this morning with a friend who’s moving, and leaving the state for good. What a sad day indeed. We’ve known each other for some time, years in fact — and have always said we’ve been friends, but in reality that’s not the case. Over the last few years, we’ve called each other up and gotten coffee, hung out every few months at a party, and have made countless plans to see each other that just kept getting pushed back. Que the John Lennon quote from above here.
While we were getting coffee this morning, our conversation switched over to this very topic. We couldn’t help but question our intentions with each other — why our plans kept falling through, and why we kept falling in and out of touch. He then looked me right in the eye and said the following: “If you really wanted to stay in touch, you would have”. And of course this works both ways — if he really wanted to stay in touch, he would have, sadly he was just better at this than I; but still I knew he was right.
I didn’t know what to say. It was bad enough that I felt bad about not seeing him, and staying in touch more let alone having him admit it to me at 9:30 AM on a day where I’m home. Yes, it’s easy to fall in and out of touch, because that’s what happens. Everyone is busy. Most people want to call/text/email but don’t.
And just as fast as they appeared, they’re gone.